Conceived in incestuous rape, but ‘not defined by my DNA’: Kristi Hofferber’s incredible story
by Peter Baklinski
Mon Feb 13
Co-authored with John Jalsevac
February 13, 2012 (LifeSiteNews.com) – If you think of yourself as ‘pro-life’ except in the case of rape and incest, you will have to look Kristi Hofferber in the eye and tell her that her mother should have aborted her. And it almost happened.
In an extraordinary and moving personal testimony published today by LifeSiteNews, Kristi explains that she grew up in a happy Christian home, her only complaint being a constant and growing sense of unease borne of the knowledge that she was adopted. This restlessness finally drove her to seek out the facts about her birth parents shortly before she turned 30.
She could not possibly have prepared herself for what she found out.
After telling her adopted parents that she wanted to know more about her biological parents, they sat her down and told her the horrifying facts of her conception: that her birth mother was repeatedly raped by her deranged incestuous father throughout her teenage years. Six pregnancies resulted; five of them ended in abortion. In the midst of these horrendous circumstances, Kristi alone was inexplicably spared, narrowly escaping the fate of her brothers and sisters.
“I was speechless!” Kristi relates. “It took all I had to keep my composure. I went from having about a dozen questions in my mind, to having hundreds.”
To Read Kristi’s full testimony, click here.
Even after learning the facts of her conception, Kristi says she felt driven to try to find out more, and perhaps even contact her birth mother. After making some inquiries on the internet she was able to make contact, and soon thereafter, to arrange an emotional reunion with her birth mother.
“My biological mother was very surprised that I had chosen to find her even after knowing the truth about my biological father,” writes Kristi. “This is when I let her know my faith and how I felt about who I was. He may share my DNA, but God created me. No matter the circumstance, it is of God’s will and purpose that I was conceived. I do not want anything from my biological father, nor will I ever.”
Kristi says that at the end of the day, she is simply thankful that she is alive.
“I cringe when someone says they’re pro-life but they believe in exceptions for rape and incest,” Kristi told WND recently. “Then I step in and say, ‘Wait a minute. I was conceived in incest, and I’m just as human as you are.”
Kristi is saddened that most children conceived in circumstances similar to hers end up paying the ultimate price for the sins of their father.
“The option of abortion allowed him to punish my innocent brothers and sisters with death. This is wrong in so many ways. God has a plan for each and every child, including those of us conceived in incest and rape. To have abortion as a legal choice hurts everyone involved,” she said.
Kristi does not define herself by her biological DNA, but by the love of her birth mother and by the love that she knows God has for her.
“God is my father,” she says. “It doesn’t matter who my biological father is”.
“He may share my DNA, but God created me. No matter the circumstance, it is of God’s will and purpose that I was conceived.”
Kristi is a walking testimony that even in cases of rape and incest, each unborn child is created for a purpose. “As my story reveals, God can take something bad and make it an opportunity to do something miraculous.”
“I was given the gift of life in a difficult circumstance and believe that every child conceived deserves the same, without exception.”
Kristi is married to a Christian pastor. They have become proud parents through adoption. Kristi’s biological father, who terrorized her mother for decades, died last year.